Friday, September 4, 2015

Dear Diary

September 1, 2015
Dear Diary,

We put our oldest on the train to school for the first time today. Watching him load that trunk, cautiously climb the steps, and find a seat brought back so many memories. I remember watching so many brothers board that train before I finally had the chance myself!

I hope that he has a good year. Honestly? I hope he has a boring year! I had lots of great adventures at school, but they got a little intense there for a while. Thinking back on all we overcame is just mind boggling. True, I came to know some of my closest friends, and husband, during those trials, but I still wouldn't wish them on anyone else.

After leaving the train station, we took the younger two by their Uncles' shop downtown and then stopped for a nice lunch. It was quite an adventure watching the kids try things out in the shop. They probably got into a bit more than I would have liked, but we were having such a grand time catching up with old friends. It's hard to believe that  we are old enough to be sending our own children off to school now!

I cannot begin to say how nice it was to have such a normal day. Although, if I'm being completely honest I do wish for a little excitement on occasion. I guess this is how life turns out. So many adventures early on, and then settling into nice routines as you age.

While it is odd to only have two children in the house tonight, we will be just fine. We'll all adjust to this new normal and I'm looking forward to our first mail updates. Time for a chess match before bed.

Love,
Ginny





This has been my latest adventure with the Secret Subject Swap. This week 16 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts. 


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My subject is
Tell me what a day is like from the perspective of your favorite book character. It was submitted by Stacy Sews and Schools. I could have gone on much longer, but I got lost down a rabbit hole over at the Harry Potter Wiki! Ginny isn't necessarily my favorite character, but I felt drawn to a day in the life from her perspective, seeing as we have both recently sent children off for their schooling adventures. I also had a good laugh at the thought of Ginny keeping a diary later in life, in light of her earlier diary experiences.

Monday, August 31, 2015

Ch-ch-ch-changes Over the Last Ten Years

The more things change, the more they stay the same, right? Or something like that! I've mentioned working on a new training module for the student workers I supervise. The good news is that we tried it out and it went great! The bad news is that it didn't seem to lessen my first day of the semester workload any at all! I'm beat, I'm behind and I'm ready for a weekend and it's only Monday (as I write this)!

Today's topic for #TuesdayTen is: For better or worse, 10 things that have changed in your life in the past 10 years. Since 2005, there are many things that have changed and many things that have not. For example...

1. We added Henry and Benjamin to the family!
2. I've changed jobs a few times (teaching 2nd grade, teaching preschool, leading Youth ministry, Office Manager) and so has Ken (Radio Shack, Full time student, Toys-R-Us, KMart, ABC)
3. I changed cars: Crown Vic, Buick LeSabre, Dodge Caravan, Honda Odyssey. Ken has...driven the same truck this whole time!! (The end is near, 1997 Chevy S-10 Pickup. The end is near!)
4. We've had some appliance upgrades: new clothes washer times two, new dryer, new dishwasher, furnace repairs, and A/C work
5. And I've brought my phone into the 21st century: flip phone, BlackBerry, iPhone 4, iPhone 6

On the other hand, quite a few things have stayed the same:

6. Same husband! I'm not trading him in!!
7. Same house! We've finally moved Frances up to her own room and it makes things feel a bit more spacious for us all (still only one bathroom, though)
8. Same church! I love my church family. I can't imagine leaving them.
9. Same cat. We can't seem to get rid of him, LOL!
10. Same apron, same bathrobe, and same earrings. Don't be jealous or anything, but I can still fit into the same ones I had ten years ago. In fact, I can still fit into the same ones I had in high school, almost 20 years ago!!

What changes have happened to you in the last 10 years!

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Tuesday, August 25, 2015

10 Things We Don't Argue About

Today is "Kiss and Make Up Day." Sounds like a great day to talk about arguing, right? With three kids and two parents, we have a good deal of arguing that goes on at our house on a regular basis. Usually I refer to it as my children practicing their conflict resolution skills. That makes it sound better, right?

I'm coming off six days of vacation, putting my last Kindergartner on the bus, Ken dislocating his shoulder, and the rearranging of bedrooms at my house too, so my emotional state is a little bit fragile right now. As I was thinking of this post, and being mad that it was going to be late, I decided that I really didn't want to write about arguments. I needed something lighter. So instead, I bring you...

10 Things We Don't Argue About At My House

 

A good friend once told me that one important thing she had learned in parenting was to pick your battles. There are many things I choose not to dig my heels in about. It just isn't worth getting upset over certain things. Then there are other things that we've all managed to agree on. It's amazing, I know!

1.  The toilet seat: We've always closed the lid. I think originally the reasoning had something to do with keeping the cat out of the toilet, but it's also more sanitary and better looking. The kids have always managed to put the lid down when they're done. They don't always remember to flush, however, and that's another thing we don't argue about.

2.  The toilet paper goes over. That's just the American way, folks. Any other way is just plain silly. The only times I have seen it under were when the kids were just learning to change the roll, and you'd better believe that I didn't complain about how they changed the roll as long as they changed it!

3.  The thermostat stays put. Ken usually likes it a bit cooler in the summer than I do, but he turns on the fan and that makes him happy. I'm actually more comfortable under a blanket when I'm sitting anyway. In the winter, I'll put on a sweater and he'll still be comfortable in his t-shirts. Besides, my dad and Calvin's dad always said that wearing a sweater build character!

4.  I sleep near the wall. I like being in the corner for some reason. Ken is more comfortable being on the other side. It also fits with the way we naturally sleep. We've never really discussed who sleeps where, but that's how it always works out.

5.  Ken cooks dinner when he's home, I cook when he's not. Ken schedule isn't a regular 8-5, but there is still a pattern to it. He's usually home Tuesday and Thursday evenings and then one evening on the weekends. He makes dinner those nights. Obviously, when he's not home, I cook. It makes sense. And both of us enjoy cooking.

6.  I make very few comments on the kids' choice of clothing. We are finally hitting a stride where the only person I have to dress in the morning is myself. (Although with Ken's arm in a sling, he needs a little temporary help.) As long as the kids' clothes cover the appropriate parts of their bodies, I refrain from making comments on the color and/or pattern choices they make. If you see my kids out in public, you may kindly assume that they dressed themselves, and I'll do the same for you!

7.  Dirty dishes go in the sink. We just don't have the counter space to stack dishes on the counter. And I'm never caught up enough to have the dishwasher ready to receive dirties on a regular basis. The only exception to this rule is Ken's milk glass, which he leaves on the counter "in case he wants another glass later." He rarely does, but I just roll my eyes at him and go on with my day.

8.  We don't argue about money. We can't. We don't have any!! LOL! Seriously, though. All of our bills are paid and extra tends to show up when we need it to.

9.  We each drive our own vehicle. Ken has a 5-speed truck. We don't use it often because it only has two seats and a jump seat. If he and I go somewhere in the truck, though, he drives. When we go places in the van, I drive. The exception to this is that Ken drives on road trips. I don't actually like driving long distances anyway, so it works out for both of us.

10.  We're in this for life. I hope that doesn't sound flip. We've never looked a divorce as an option, so we've always made a point to work out the things that are bothering us. As you can see from the rest of this list, many things just come naturally to us, so I think we've made a good match. Sure, he irritates me from time to time, but I'm sure he gets annoyed by me on occasion as well.

Incidentally, as we were in bed the night he dislocated his shoulder, he was apologizing to me about getting hurt. I reassured him that I wasn't mad at him. and then I jokingly recited our vows to him. "I promised in sickness and in health, so that's what we'll do. We've done 'good times and bad' too. Now that I think of it, we've done the poorer part too. When do we get to the 'richer?"

He turned to me in the dark and said, "That's an 'or,' Rabia. It's richer or poorer. We only get to pick one."








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Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Life Lessons From Candy Crush

Okay, so after this post, and this post, and this post, and this post, you might think I have an obsession with Candy Crush. I'm not going to argue with you. I had honestly avoided it for a long time because I knew that if I tried it, I would be hooked. Sure enough, I was right. I will say that I haven't connected it to Facebook and I haven't bugged anyone for extra lives, so there's that. I also appreciate the time limits that force me to go do other things for brief periods of time.

I have also, believe it or not, amassed many life lessons while playing this infuriatingly addictive game!

1. Sometimes you have to wait. You can't always have what you want to immediate moment that you want it. Life doesn't work that way. Sometimes you have to wait for better timing, wait for a more secure financial situation, or wait for your lives to renew on Candy Crush!

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2. The obvious move is not always the best. There are many times in my life that I have had a decision to make. Sometimes, though decisions come easy, and sometimes I have a lot of thinking to do. I've learned that the correct decision is not always the obvious, or easy one. Sometimes life just wants you to work harder than that. Or to trust that better things are coming. Sometimes you have to do a couple of different things to set up the move you really want.

3. Don't always listen to the suggestions. There are lots of voices in my life. Most of them are looking out for me, but they don't always have all the pieces of the puzzle. I'm all for asking for advice when it's warranted, but you can't blindly follow what other people tell you to do. So when those pieces blink, don't match up 'em up without checking all the other options first!

4. Ask for help. On the other hand, there really are times when I've not known what to do. I have a good collection of wise people I can turn to whether it be financial (my dad), spiritual (my mom), parenting-related (my Julie) or any other types of advice I might need. It's not cheating to use those candy bonuses when you need them.

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5. Don't rely on boosts. Again, I feel like I'm contradicting myself. (I really wanted to say "on the other hand" again, but I don't have three hands!) There are times in life that you might be offered a leg up. A shortcut. An easy out. Look at that option long and hard before you take it. If you use a boost before you've tried all the other solutions, you may just be training yourself to take the easy way out. In the long run, you've wasted all your boosts before you really need them, and you've gotten used to putting in minimal effort.

6. Practice, practice, practice. The more you work at something, the more likely you are to be successful. You might start to see patterns in your life that you weren't noticing before. They might be good patterns to let you know you're heading in the right direction, or they might be warning signs that you can pick out because you've been paying attention. Either way, the more you practice and work hard, the better off you'll be.

7. Persevere. Similar to practicing something, perseverance says you don't give up when things get hard. Like, for example, when it took me almost a month to beat level 117! LOL! Or, for real, when I applied for lots of jobs and didn't get any of them, but I kept trying. Or when breastfeeding was difficult and I stuck with it. If there's something in life that you really want, you have to keep trying.



8. Know when to give up. Here I go again, contradicting myself! There are some things in life that just aren't meant to be. I wish I knew a magic formula for sorting out which things to keep working on and which ones to put aside. All I know is that sometimes you have to step back from a dream and just leave it alone. Maybe for a week, maybe for a month, maybe for a year. Or maybe forever. That's hard. But sometimes it's for the best, or just the best you can do for your mental health.

9. Money is not a quick fix. There are lots of problems in this world. Money is great to have, but it's really not going to solve those problems. Especially, if the underlying causes aren't addressed as well. In terms of Candy Crush, and other similar games my kids play: please don't buy the power packs! It's real money for fake gains! There is no value whatsoever to gold bars or coconut wheels. And don't think you can try it "just once." (See #5)

10. Perspective is always essential. I'll admit that I've gotten frustrated with a few levels of Candy Crush. There have been times that I had one task that I could have finished with one more move, or a chocolate that eats a piece I've been setting up for five moves. It's frustrating, but so are many parts of life. And I frequently need to remind myself that no matter how difficult life (or Candy Crush) gets, tomorrow is another day. I have faith that things will turn out they way they are meant to be.

Have you ever found any life lessons in strange places?




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